The word gossip according to Merriam-Webster Dictionary is a person who habitually reveals personal or sensational facts about others:
I have learned over the course of time that the revealing of personal information about an individual is more devastating than a lie that is told on a person. The Bible says in Proverbs 11:13, “A talebearer revealeth secrets: but he that is of a faithful spirit concealeth the matter.”
Any time a person reveals your most intimate information he/she is not a faithful friend because a friend is supposed to stick closer to you than a brother. I know that my brother would go to bat for me, and would not allow anyone to degrade me before him, and vice versa.
Now I am not saying that if someone has committed a crime, or if the individual is operating in a matter that will affect the flock, or a group setting that it should be held, because the Lord does not want us to be ignorant of Satan’s devices, neither does he want us to conceal sin. What I am saying is when a person begins to confess their faults before the Lord (and the Lord has allowed us to hear this confession) we should extend a heart of mercy, and forgiveness.
An example is the woman that was caught in the very act of adultery John 8:1-11. The men brought her to Jesus just so they could have a reason to accuse Him, but our Lord is wise. Just like these men that had information on this woman, we as a people do likewise.
Once we have heard, or have seen something about someone, we are always running to the preacher, or someone with an itching ear to tell it. Now what got my attention about this is that if the woman was caught in the very act, then where did these other men come from? Were they already there, or did they start a rumor chain which caused these men to gather together and expose this deed?
Now when Jesus began to write on the ground the scripture says that he did this as if he didn’t hear them. I have heard many things about what Jesus wrote, but my mind goes to the ground being the heart, and the word being written in our heart, so that we won’t sin against Him. Now I believe that if we take the time to allow the word to be written upon our heart every time something negative is presented to us, we won’t have time to listen to mess on other people. Romans 2:1 says, “Therefore thou art inexcusable, O man, whosoever thou art that judgest; for wherein thou judgest another, thou condemnest thyself; for thou that judgest doest the same things.
We have to begin to confront those talebearers when they come to us with intimate details of someone’s past, or current mistake. We must also realize that every time we open our mouth to expose someone we have released a stone in their direction to kill them. The way that we are killing people is by releasing stones of discouragement, lack of trust, betrayal, resentment, un-forgiveness, anger, offense, and possibly the individual never being able to come into the fullness of Christ.
Once we stop the cycle of stone throwing (just like Jesus did with these men), then others will get convicted of their wrong deeds, drop their stone, and walk away from your presence. So let’s stop this vicious cycle of biting and devouring one another, and let’s learn how to love each other the way that Christ intended for us to love.
The first part of Proverbs 25:2 says, “It is the glory of God to conceal a thing……”
1 Peter 4:8 says, “And above all things have fervent charity among yourselves: for charity shall cover the multitude of sins.”