Being There

Dr. Raymond Vath said, “We must do for others what they cannot do for themselves, but we must not do for them what they will not do for themselves. The problem is finding the wisdom to know the difference.” You can be too helpful! By doing for somebody what they can do for themselves, you undermine their self-reliance and create an unhealthy dependence. So instead of rushing in and taking over:

  1. Show them manageable action steps

By helping them take charge of their life you’re arming them against despair and powerlessness. And by validating their efforts you’re helping them to rebuild their fragile confidence. A word of caution, however: When the crisis involves irreversible loss like divorce or death, the work of simply getting through one day at a time is action enough.

 

  1. Give them hope

In the depth of crisis there seems to be no light at the end of the tunnel – a sense that suffering will go on endlessly. Growth and improvement can’t happen without hope. Hope provides energy, and brings relief based on the conviction that things will improve. God promises, “I will bless you with a future filled with hope – a future of success, not…suffering” (Jer 29:11 CEV).

 

  1. Be sure to follow up

Crises are seldom resolved quickly. Although life may eventually take on some semblance of normalcy, there may be episodes of relapse into sadness, helplessness, or loneliness. Your words may bring comfort, but your ongoing attentiveness will help the hurting person maintain faith and progress in their journey to healing.

 

 

 

 

 

Taken from: The Word for You Today, March 28th devotion

God’s Got a Plan Jeremiah 29:10-13

It’s a Hard Place but you’re coming out!!!
Jeremiah 29:10-13
>God is giving a new beginning;
a new purpose;
that we night be a new people.
>God will visit you and speak to you in a hard place and in the midst of your adversity
>THERE IS A TIME LIMIT ON HOW LONG GOD WILL ALLOW YOU TO SUFFER!!!https://soundcloud.com/randommanna/gods-got-a-plan

Sometimes our lives may seem like we are in the valley of dry bones, but the LORD is speaking life to our dead situations and causing HIS Life to put us back on our feet and make us that great army HE has destined us to be. I hope this bless your heart, and encourage you to Keep pressing towards the High Mark of God’s calling for your life.